19 year old dating older man
And yeah there's nothing much you can do about it other than express disapproval when they're both 'consenting adults' but there are adults and there are adults, so yes, I do reserve my right to disapprove in general (while conceding that in certain rare circumstances it may work out well).
(I don't think I mentioned that my co-worker is a particularly young looking 38; if I were to cast him in a movie I'd probably go with Seth Meyers ( from SNL- so it could be jealousy since if I were to cast myself I'd probably go with Burl Ives : D .) Now otoh, I don't have the slightest problem looking at male strippers who aren't much if any older than 19 anymore than most straight guys would mind looking at female strippers that age, but somehow that's different because... If I was with someone who was college-aged, I wouldn't feel that we didn't share a similar set of experiences.
Also the fact that he's from Scotland - for all she knows he could be married and just coming over here for a bit of action every now and then... That's when their age differences really show the most..the younger one esp. I WAG it is the older one's way of foolishly thinking one can escape a mid-life crisis in this fashion..to wake up one day with a total stranger when reality comes a-calling. The only upside of being middle-aged is that you can date women half your age and no one gets to say "boo" about it.
I would be interested to find out how much the 19 yr old mentioned in the OP's family know about her 'relationship' with your colleague. For such great age differences, I can't believe this is true beyond the superficial layer called lust (and/or gold digging)? From the age of 32 to 37, I dated a woman 17 years my senior. As long as nobody's breaking the law and everyone's having fun, I don't see a problem here.
I'm finding that as I get older, I have a much more difficult time estimating a woman's age.
It's hard to conceptualize that a woman your age would have two teenage kids, or be driving a minivan.