Age and dating
Either he was self-conscious about dating a younger lady, or he tried to pay for everything because he thought I expected it.The only reason a guy is obligated to pay for a woman’s dinner in this day and age is because it’s his turn, it’s her birthday, or because he’s a maître d’ who spilled something on her.Like height or body type, age is one of those strange things about a person that we know they can’t help, but nevertheless handily use to write them off.If you dismiss people because of their personalities or because you’re on some kind of baby-making timetable, fine, fair enough.I think that if you meet somebody you like and are attracted to, you meet somebody you like and are attracted to.Go out with people because you want to be naked with them and still hang out with them after.A lot of us have found ourselves attracted to somebody younger or older, and have been reluctant to act on it because of some perceived weirdness or taboo.Some of us limit our potential partners to a very specific age range because that’s what we think we’ll be attracted to.
Being predatory is just plain gross on either side of the equation, either from young people looking to trade sex for free Hulu Plus, or old people suffering conversation with somebody who for the relative elasticity of their genitals.When you completely remove personality and individual experience from the equation and rely exclusively on stuff like "young," "blue eyes," and "no glasses," you end up with Robert, that weirdo in the beret.Forget about other people, money, and the looming specter of death. If we start writing people off based on this completely arbitrary Z-factor, we’re really going to end up forcing a lot of conversation with a lot of boring, age-appropriate dullards.It’s too bad O-Town was hit by a bus."He was the only "younger guy" I’d ever gone out with, by about six years, and I used to ask my friends obsessively if it was "weird." But they just thought it was strange that all of our conversations could start a potential death rumor about Ray Liotta. Ultimately, it wasn’t that this guy was young; it was that I had absolutely nothing to say to him that wasn’t "There," "Not there," "NOT there, this isn’t anybody’s birthday," or "Slow down, Usain Bolt, who incidentally is ." It wasn’t about age—it was about somebody with a nice body I had absolutely nothing to say to.I’ve discussed dating out of your demographic with men and women alike, and while everybody has a lot to say on the subject of age, I’m of the opinion that it is, indeed, nothing but a number.