Am dating much older man
How wonderful it felt to have an "adult" who valued our opinion; thought we were not just cute but interesting.
My best friend was 14 when she fell in love with a 21 year old. My friend's older boyfriend was close with a guy I'll call T. My mother, spying him from the front window, asked me how old he was.
US Census stats show that in the 1950s, the average age gap was 4 years. 2013 stats show that 66% of women are married to men within 1 year or up to 5 years older than them.
In tenth grade, we made friends with a group of older guys who hung out on the main street of town, which ran parallel to the local university — guys who'd once gone to our same high school and had never left the social scene. " "So, no normal 20 year old wants to hang out with someone who is 15. Stay away from him." This was the sort of thing that always led to my leaving the room in a teary huff, maintaining loudly that she Just Didn't Understand. One Saturday, the guys planned a picnic in a nearby forest park. All I had was my instinct and discomfort — a bad gut feeling. When I write novels, there is always a clear trajectory: the beginning, middle, climax, and end.
When they weren't doing BMX and skateboard tricks in front of the post office, they were spending what money they had at the nearby arcade, or spinning on stools and shooting straw wrappers in their favorite burger joint, just across the street. "I don't want you hanging around with someone that much older than you." "Mom." I'm sure I rolled my eyes. Once again, she was treating me like a child, someone unable to make her own decisions. It didn't seem like such a big deal, as my best friend was doing nothing sneaking around to be with her boyfriend. Suddenly, I wasn't that scared, invisible girl anymore, watching from the sidelines. I remember it was a gorgeous fall day, crisp and cool, and the first time I'd had Brie cheese and red wine. With real life, however, and memory especially, it is harder to keep things so neat and organized. In the first, I snuck out of the house with a guy friend who lived down the street. My friend came back, we went home and I slid back into my bed. The second incident I remember happened when he was giving me a ride home.
That’s hardly reflects the increasing age gap preference! As Psychology Today points out, women today have more career choices and are getting closer to equal pay, which means they are feeling less pressured to get married in order to achieve stability.
The increase use of fertility treatments also probably has something to do with it too, since women don’t feel as pressured by the tick-tock of their biological clocks to have children. It might have to do with the fact that many divorced men have children and alimonies to pay, something which younger women might tolerate better than a woman in the man’s own age bracket.