Christian view dating after divorce
Far from being commitment-shy, they were keen to find a good woman and get on with the business of building a healthy relationship.
These chaps were often more confident, and knew exactly what they were looking for in a partner.
It was a shocker of a story, and the poor guy clearly hadn’t processed the trauma, let alone found any peace in it. In his position, I would be, too – but let’s not forget, this was meant to be a date.
(You can read the full grisly story in my book, Would Like To Meet). Are they rushing to fill the gap left by their spouse, or do they seem genuinely ready to move on? Have they worked through the trauma of their divorce?
Groups like Divorce meet all over the world and offer emotional and spiritual support.
Here you can also meet people in your area who are struggling with similar dating issues.
So if being divorced isn’t a deal-breaker for you, and you find yourself interested in someone who’s single for the second time, here are my top seven issues to consider… Is the marriage definitely over, with no chance of reconciliation? Do they have ‘closure’ or are they still dealing with shock and grief? Are they able to discuss their former spouse without too much anger and bitterness? If they cheated, do they accept full responsibility for their behaviour and show genuine repentence?
Have they been able to forgive (or are they at least working on it)? What have they learned from the experience, and what would they do differently in a future relationship? How do they plan to protect any future marriage from infidelity? If they have children, can you embrace them as part of the ‘package’?
I once went on a date with a gentleman who spent most of the evening telling me about his wife’s betrayal a year earlier.🙂 Of course, if I were considering a relationship with a divorcé, I’d need to know exactly why his marriage ended.Infidelity would be a serious red flag, as would be an inability to examine honestly the part he may have played in the ending of the marriage.They’d learned from their mistakes and seemed well equipped to conduct a grown-up relationship.Plus another woman had already put in the work on their domestic training!