Dating courtship islam
The romantic notions that occupy the mind of young people often have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved.
We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the West to understand this point.
This is most common amongst Iranis and Iraqis who use this as a method of "Courting".3. Christians and Jews and Sabians (And Zoroastrians). The woman or her agent initiate the formula with the words "I have made myself your wife on the agreed mahr(Dowry)" the man or his agent immediately reply "I accept the marriage". I am not saying she is not loved or appreciated but Islam favors the man to have many wives and to decide how they are cared for and which one he dedicates his time to.
In Shi'ite jurisprudence there is an extra option called "Mut'a" which is a contractual partnership or "Temporary marriage" where couples can see each other for a limited time before permanent marriage. The minimum that is required is the pronouncement of the marriage formula. I have always seen marriage in Islam as the man being dominant and the woman is treated like an option.
The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her commitment to religion. If the lady you want to marry is religious, of good manners, and obeys Allah and His Messenger, and both of you want to please Allah in this world in order to earn reward in the Hereafter, then you have made a perfect choice, and we ask Allah to fulfill your hopes and bring you together in a good way.Yet, the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship.This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner.Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper]! If she is not, then you should reconsider your choice.May Allah help you to do what He loves and what pleases Him!