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And it never ceases to amaze me how quickly they regress back to their younger, eager, validation-seeking selves when Dad sends them a simple text after skating in and out of their lives (either emotionally, physically or both) for years and years. If your Dad had a hard time expressing his emotions, accepting you or making you feel beautiful/cool/accepted/capable enough, he was most likely emotionally unavailable and unhappy with himself and his life at the time. There comes a point though when we need to realize that if a pattern exists, it’s not Dad or our boyfriend hurting us, it’s us to retraumatize ourselves because that’s all we know.
No one had the perfect parent and no one will be the perfect parent. We don’t know what availability or connectivity looks/feels like and even though we may claim to want it more than anything, we’re much more comfortable in an environment of claiming to want it while being the victim of its absence.
You’ll also be able to make sure that your future/current daughter knows that she’s enough.
As I got older, this led to me going after guys who were not only emotionally and physically fleeting but were also emotionally disconnected, empathetically bankrupt, and narcissistic.
I had become emotionally unavailable myself and I still battle my reverse narcissism to this day.
If you don’t have or want kids, go find a photo of yourself as a kid and remind that little girl in the photo that she’s more than enough.x Natasha Natasha.
I just got out of a relationship with a truly despicable man for whom I dropped every boundary that I ever thought I had, subjected myself to and accepted from him everything you have described in your posts.