Handle intimidating people
By constantly marginalizing, ridiculing, and dismissing you, she or he keeps you off-balance and maintains her superiority.The aggressor deliberately fosters the impression that there’s always something wrong with you, and that no matter how hard you try, you are inadequate and will never be good enough.Not everyone who acts in the following manners may be deliberately trying to control you. Regardless, it’s important to recognize these behaviors in situations where your rights, interests and safety are at stake. Home Court and Time Dominance An aggressive and controlling person may insist on you meeting and interacting in a physical space where he or she can exercise more dominance and control.This can be the aggressor’s office, home, car, or other spaces where she feels ownership and familiarity (and where you lack them).It can also be used by individuals who are highly control-oriented in business, domestic, and other situations. I've had a more than a few controlling bosses with tiny windowless offices but have had really big chairs.Excluding professions which may need this type of behavior to do their jobs (such as law enforcement, security, military, patient care, and risk-oriented activities), excessive and repeated control of someone’s behavior without valid reason could be considered forms of bullying and abuse. Threatening Unreasonable Consequence(s) Some people try to intimidate by threatening any number of consequences that will fall upon you if you don’t comply with their wishes. Copyright violation may subject the violator to legal prosecution. I've often wondered about those chairs, how they got them.
The message here is that his time is more important than yours, and by inference he’s more important than you. Power Differential in Furniture Set-Up This usually happens when you enter someone’s deliberately set-up power office, where she or he sits in a larger, adjustable “executive” chair, while you are given a smaller and sometimes unadjustable seat.
Examples can include any variety of comments ranging from your appearance, to your older model smart phone, to your background and credentials, to the fact that you walked in two minutes late and out of breath.
By making you look bad, and getting you to feel bad, the aggressor hopes to impose psychological superiority over you. Constantly Judge and Criticize You to Make You Feel Inadequate Distinct from the previous behavior where negative humor is used as a cover, here the aggressor outright picks on you.
When someone’s name is called, the speaker has the listener’s attention.
The listener is more inclined to feel put on the spot, and compelled to respond with greater attentiveness.