On line dating for disabled people
Thankfully, I don’t take offense easily and I put it down to ignorance, perhaps lack of contact with anybody with a disability in their family or circle, but the more this happened the less passionate I became about challenging the stigma with every single one of them.It got old, it got depressing, it started to get to me.The sheer strength of the stigma that disabled people can’t or don’t have, nor want sexual intimacy hit me like a ton of bricks.It was like I consumed so much stigma that the stigma itself made me start to feel asexual.Online dating is more common than meeting people by chance nowadays.With many people seemingly unable to function without a device firmly glued to the palm of their hand, online dating has simply accompanied the times.I found myself on the free online dating sites such as Plenty of Fish and Oasis.Still living at home and relying on the bank of Mum and Dad, a girl couldn’t be forking out for e Harmony, no matter how appealing their match questionnaires appeared. Like many wheelchair users, when it comes to creating a dating profile we never know whether to mention the disability or not, or if it’d be in our best interests to upload a photo showing or not showing our chairs. The disability is a part of you and you shouldn’t be ashamed of it.
I remember a guy following up the “can you have sex?
I picked a head shot where my headrest is in the background and briefly mentioned I was a wheelchair user in my profile.
Now don’t get me wrong, some guys — scratch that — 80 percent of guys do not read the girl’s profile.
I’ve seen this happen before — the disabled person not declaring the disability until the person has gotten to like them, it’s all going well and they want to meet and boom!
The disability bomb is dropped and suddenly the able person forgets all the common interests, flirty chats and initial attraction because many people just can’t see past the disability. I used some nice photo shoot photos that made me feel sexy and confident.