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In a related study, when single female students were placed in groups with other women, they admitted wanting high-paying, high-powered jobs. When it comes to who men ask out, the research looks different.But in groups with single men, these women were more likely to say they wanted a family-friendly job: lower paying but more flexible. In Match.com’s 2017 Singles in America survey, men marked "entrepreneur" as the sexiest career a woman can have. Cohen, Ph D, and Karen Wilson, Ph D, as men’s academic motivation rises, so does their desire for a smart partner. A series of experiments at the University at Buffalo, for example, discovered that while men are turned on by the idea of intelligent women, the concept is tougher to swallow in practice — in fact, if a girl outperforms a guy on a test, he’ll express less romantic interest.Others, though, tone down their ambition — or even drop goals altogether — in order to attract or keep a guy around.As Yi S., 31, a finance professional, learned the hard way, the latter can lead to bigger problems down the line.The good news: There are guys who want to help you chase success. Look for a man within a few years of your age with similar interests, recommends Adshade.Maybe that’s a Bumble match who claims to have just read your favorite book or a bachelor in your grad program.
He is supportive of his female friends’ dreams and sees himself settling down with a career type someday. “It’s intimidating when a woman is beautiful and successful and has her shit together,” he says. What I want in my head and what I go for are not usually aligned.” For Jesse and guys like him, in-the-moment feelings of emasculation are overriding their stated dating preferences, says psychologist Lora Park, Ph D, lead researcher of that University at Buffalo study.
“I stifled my dreams to make him happy and I never felt like myself.” Of course, some women are content to give up careers to accommodate love and there’s nothing wrong with that.
But forgoing or subduing your dreams for a man can breed resentment.
Not to let guys off the hook but much of this stuff is deeply ingrained.
Evolutionary behavior and traditional gender roles have primed dudes to be competitive and establish themselves as breadwinners.