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It sounds like a dramatic way to put things, but it’s true.
you have to let go of your fears, and dive into the deep end.
This means that you may in fact get “hurt” in a failed relationship.
As an example, I have been in this kind of situation before, with a close, attractive female friend and a woman I was dating at the time.
However, this constantly put the person I was dating “on edge”, which mainly stemmed from her own insecurity.